"You frame it as though he has no authority over you because he failed to avoid being taken by an otherworldly, powerful creature. That is punishment." She leans forward. "It is not productive. He already hurts. You of course can be mad, Susan. Anger is a moment. Feel it; I don't care."

She leans back, feeling exhausted and frustrated by the both of them. She knows this is all going to sound like an attack, but she unfortunately doesn't know how else to frame it. She doesn't know how to be delicate all the time, nor delicate much at all even quite infrequently. She thinks it's helpful, but that has been consistently and evidently untrue.

What else can she do?

"But you are misdirecting your feelings."